What many people don’t understand about members of the Bi+ community is that whether we are single or in a relationship, regardless of our partners’ gender, our orientation persists. Being bisexual is lifelong for most of us. It is an identity, not a passing fad. We are still bisexual — no matter how many times folks may ask!
But, you’ve chosen to be straight or gay once you commit to a partner, right?
Sexual orientation is about attraction not behavior. Bisexuals in committed relationships are still attracted to more than one gender—they just have chosen to be with that particular partner.
How can that be? Don’t bisexuals need both to be happy?
Bisexuality is the ability to be attracted to more than one gender; however, the individual experience of being bisexual varies considerably. Preferred relationship styles—such as monogamy and polyamory/non-monogamy—are separate of sexual orientation.
The #StillBisexual campaign’s goal is to create a movement of bisexuals nationwide debunking negative bisexual stereotypes by telling their personal stories. This can be done by…
*Posting a tweet about your bisexuality followed by the hashtag #StillBisexual and/or @StillBisexual
*Taking a selfie holding a handwritten or downloaded #StillBisexual sign from ourwebsite and posting it to Twitter and/or the #StillBisexual Facebook page
*Filming a #StillBisexual video telling your bisexual story
It’s hard to hate someone once you know their story. The campaign aims to tell as many bisexuals’ personal stories as possible to change the cultural conversation around bisexuality and help create a better and more accepting world for current and future generations of bisexuals.
So far, the campaign has garnered attention in publications like Cosmopolitan, The Advocate, The Huffington Post, The Daily Mail UK, SheWired, Towleroad, Logo, and has earned support from The Trevor Project, the Human Rights Campaign, the Los Angeles LGBT Center, and bisexual organizations across the world.
Watching or making a #StillBisexual video can help bisexuals embrace and accept their orientation despite often not knowing any bisexuals in-person or being a part of the local bisexual community (if they have one).
#StillBisexual videos feature bisexuals of all ages, races, marital statuses and gender identities, silently flipping hand-written cards to music. The cards tell their stories of coming out as bisexual, the prejudice they encountered, and how they ultimately came to accept that their bisexuality was here to stay.
The #StillBisexual campaign has filmed videos in Los Angeles, San Francisco, New York and Chicago and is in the process of branching out to a city near you. Participants have also filmed their own videos from across the country and submitted them to the campaign via Twitter and Facebook.
Those who have told their stories have found the process liberating and life-changing. By embracing your truth, you deflate your shame.
If you are gay or straight, commit to being a bisexual ally. Start by questioning your own internal assumptions about bisexuality. Speak up when you hear people say the bisexual identity isn’t valid or fail to include bisexuality in the cultural conversation surrounding the LGBT community. Question those who perpetuate myths and stereotypes about bisexuals. Lead by example. We need you!
If you are bisexual, consider making a #StillBisexual video of your own! Learn how to make your video by checking out the “Tips for Making Your Video” on this site. If you need more assistance, please contact us at email@example.com. We might have someone in your town who can film your video for you.
If you aren’t in a place where you feel comfortable making your own video or shooting a #StillBisexual selfie, you can still join the online #StillBisexual community by following @StillBisexual on Twitter or by liking our page on Facebook at www.facebook.com/StillBiDealWithIt.
For more information, please contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
LITTLE KNOWN FACTS ABOUT THE BISEXUAL COMMUNITY
- BISEXUALS HAVE HIGHER SUICIDE RATES THAN GAYS AND LESBIANS
- NEARLY HALF OF BISEXUAL WOMEN HAVE ATTEMPTED OR CONSIDERED SUICIDE AS HAVE ONE IN THREE BISEXUAL MEN
- ONE IN TWO BISEXUAL WOMEN HAVE EXPERIENCED INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE (A RATE HIGHER THAN LESBIANS OR HETEROSEXUAL WOMEN)
- ONE IN THREE BISEXUAL MEN HAS EXPERIENCED RAPE, VIOLENCE OR STALKING BY AN INTIMATE PARTNER AS OPPOSED TO ONE IN FOUR GAY MEN
- BISEXUALS HAVE HIGHER RATES OF MOOD DISORDERS SUCH AS ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION THAN MEMBERS OF THE GAY AND HETEROSEXUAL COMMUNITIES
- BISEXUAL HAVE HIGHER RATES OF POVERTY AND SUBSTANCE ABUSE THAN GAYS, LESBIANS AND HETEROSEXUALS
- FIFTY-EIGHT PERCENT OF BISEXUALS HAVE BEEN THE SUBJECT OF HURTFUL JOKES AT WORK BECAUSE OF THEIR ORIENTATION
- BISEXUAL TEENAGE GIRLS FACE HIGHER LEVELS OF SEXUAL HARASSMENT THAN THEIR STRAIGHT OR LESBIAN PEERS
- ONLY ONE IN TEN BISEXUAL YOUTH FEEL LIKE THEY “FIT IN” TO THEIR COMMUNITY AT SCHOOL
- TWENTY-NINE PERCENT OF BISEXUAL YOUTH ARE FREQUENTLY OR VERBALLY HARASSED AT SCHOOL
- BISEXUALS COMPRISE 52% OF THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY BUT RECEIVE LESS THAN 1% OF FUNDING
- BISEXUALS FACE AN ALMOST EQUAL AMOUNT OF DISCRIMINATION FROM THE GAY COMMUNITY AS THEY DO FROM THE STRAIGHT COMMUNITY
CENTERS FOR DISEASE CONTROL: http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/nisvs_sofindings.pdf
LGBT FUNDERS: https://www.lgbtfunders.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/2014_Tracking_Report.pdf
JOURNAL OF BISEXUALITY: http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2016/01/03/are-bisexuals-shut-out-of-the-lgbt-club.html
SAN FRANCISCO HUMAN RIGHTS COMMISSION: http://sfhrc.org/sites/default/files/Documents/HRC_Publications/Articles/Bisexual_Invisiblity_Impacts_and_Recommendations_March_2011.pdf
AMERICAN JOURNAL OF PUBLIC HEALTH: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2820045/
HUMAN RIGHTS CAMPAIGN: http://www.hrc.org/youth-report/supporting-and-caring-for-our-bisexual-youth
LGBT MOVEMENT ADVANCEMENT PROJECT: http://www.lgbtmap.org/policy-and-issue-analysis/invisible-majority